letter to my 15 year old son
Oh Lorraine, I feel every word that you write here about your son. We all know there are two sides to every story and I’ve added both sides. Wow! Each letter is a tangible expression of your love and pride, combined with the hopes and dreams you have for their future. Not every story has a happy ending, but fortunately, this one does. I know sometimes the temptation of greed and the love of money can be overwhelming, but the dupery always seems to fall in the lap of the beholder and the expectations are short lived. You have touched my heart with your heartfelt words, your unconditional love and care for your boy drips from every line and yes, you went through hard times and it wasn’t easy by any means for you both but there is a clear message of redemption, forgiveness and healing here which is what I, as a reader, want to see. Hi David…you didn’t come across that way to me. Out of the blue – (and yes I do mean that quite literally) he has decided that he wants to move and live with his father. In a Petrochemical Plant they tested for drugs and alcohol weekly and was more stringent at the consulting firm. Waste no energy earning respect in high school. For the first two years I had to take medication for physical therapy when learning how to walk again along with other medication for the head trauma. Below is a draft of a letter that I would write if I had made such a gift to a granddaughter named Megan. I was in the hospital having surgery at this time. Even at the time I had an inkling that he was right. My son (only child) is 24 now, haven’t seen him in over six years. I teared up many times while reading the author’s touching words, and was bawling when I read the final one. ), Aww, bless you Lorraine, I just write what I feel and I mean every word , Yes, it will be very interesting to see what other feedback you get here from the men , I don’t have too many male readers (from what I can tell); maybe a dozen. It proves you’re in the big boat with everyone else, not alone in the dinghy. You are just now beginning to show your amazing personality and I am so proud of the young man I see you becoming. When I almost lost my leg and had to undergo major surgery to save it, our roles were reversed and you took good care of me. This post and the one you wrote about “friendship” are my two favourites. I’m sorry. He is the tidiest and conscientious teen I have ever known! I am sending you a huge hug to give you some love and some strength. I’ve been cut out of sons life now for a year , it’s destroying me and he lives in Canada, he’s been married and has a new baby since we spoke last, all calls, emails are ignored. shares. Do you still prefer yogurt over ice cream? My handsome some is 36 years old, 13″ taller than I am, and the most wonderful son, husband, daddy, and he is a Nurse. We can only understand life backwards, but we must live it forwards. For your words, your emotions, your encouragement, your love. So insightful, so true! Ask all the time: What’s the worse that can happen? He wasn’t standoffish like he has been. The best part is that we’re now in a healthy relationship. Deborah, I’m SOOOO happy for you! I lost my Dad 10 years ago this year and there were never words left unsaid. I’m sure your bond with all of your children is strong, especially your daughter, whom I know you have but didn’t mention here. The first thing to know is that high school, and everything that comes after it, is impossible to get right. Thanks! Mine is now 23. I must send the letter to his mother then pray she delivers it to him. When the parents are a disappointment it shames the child and the parent, I’m guilty on three occasions. Of course, most 13, 14 or 15 year olds have very little formal work experience to list, nor will they have any qualifications - so preparing a CV template requires a little thought. This is a great piece of writing and worth publishing. Parenting can be very rewarding, but heartbreaking at times, too. Humiliation is deceptive–it always makes us feel like it only happens to ourselves. (I cried reading Elaine’s memoirs a bunch of times. It isn’t actually possible to be cool in high school—all high school students are hopelessly uncool, especially the cool ones. After 18 months my son left home to live with his mother, and don’t blame him, the poor child had had enough. Shy people are scary to be around because they are a big bundle of question marks. Stupendous Sixteen would be more appropriate – the age where you feel on top of the world. This is the irony that this letter would undoubtedly get lost in all the noise bombarding a teenagers mind. Desperate for help will try to keep this short. If we were 100% anything, there would be NO need for evolution; no evolution, no reason for soul. Fifteen is a hard year, my love. Finally after five years of therapy I regained most of my faculties, I could walk again and talk and remember most everything, especially names, but my son will not talk to me. Apples over potato chips? Have a great Christmas! It touched me in explicable ways. Other than blog posts, I mean…. I didn’t want to miss anything. We must embrace all of the little things in life. Dear Daughter, ... You are 15 now, but before you know it … I am so sorry to hear all this. 20 BLOG POST MUST-HAVES! Yes I was, but many people went through exactly the same thing and didn’t make these mistakes. And so big boy, you are 1!!! This hurt him so bad, I could see the pain in his eyes and could feel the sorrow in his heart because I felt the same. I made that mistake and it landed me to parts I didn’t want to be in the first place, but of course I didn’t know it then. I haven’t the words you have and am not a writer so I take comfort from someone like yourself who can put this into words for me. I am proud that you are my son. Smiling matters. thanks again and merry christmas to both of you, max, Thanks for your comments, Max; I appreciate your kind words. I made it up on the spot, while brushing your teeth, to distract you. But humiliation is as universal as it gets. You were never very cuddly. ), I’m glad your son still hugs you! (First please excuse my language skills). I bet you have a ton of stories to tell that are interesting and captivating, even if you think they aren’t. Best to keep talking it all out. One more year has passed us by, You are a young man now! I need to say mommy, because of course these days you insist on calling me Mom. I finally got a guy to speak up! That know-it-all attitude with a hint of rebellion can be par for the course for 15-year-olds. Letter To My 15 Year-Old Self by Tonia Jordan – ArticleCity.com. I very much enjoyed reading this letter. Did you feel some sort of pressure involving how to position your legs in an effort to manly? It makes me happy to see that in you. Try to laugh at this. My ex husband remarried and I fear his new wife will replace me when it comes to my son. A Letter to My 9-Year-Old Son. It is pretty funny that you can never know what you need to know without your future self writing you a cryptic letter, which can’t actually happen in real life. My intent was to physically write the letter but this proved too demanding on my hands due to the accident and it generated too many errors. So the first step can often lead to more thinking, and doubt, which expands the cloud. A letter to … my teenage girl, who hates me so very much . I have tried to talk to him and had my parents talk to him – he is hearing NONE of it. Thank you. It’s like working at Canadian Tire for a summer and getting paid only in Canadian Tire money. Sure, you’re a great writer, editor, and all of that; but most people do not hang theirs close out to dry in the front yard, you do. A Letter to My Son. I kept us both alive despite a huge lack of money to do so. I think you do. Trying to give the child some sense of freedom to be and to pose questions, hoping to be laughing with happiness at the lack of sense of it all instead of laughing in despair. Kudos to you. There is enormous pressure to get this choice right, and you won’t. Learn more here: Learn everything you need to know about creating and selling a course from. “…It’s anything but personal–when it comes to other people’s impressions it’s never about who you are, it’s about how they feel.”, “We all take turns being humiliated. Started feeling sorry for myself and loathing in self pity wondering – why this happened to me? When we're still not doing it, all we have are thoughts, so it feels limitless. Give them to your kids later on. Only someone having been through it like yourself understands the unbearable pain Im feeling right now and have been for the past 3 years since my son decided to cut me out of his life. and i agree with the rest of the group you should definitely start the book. We are all not uneducated losers . I keep telling my 13 year old daughter another truth: in ten years time, you will not even remember their names. There I shared my letter to my 16-year-old self, expressing sentiments that capture why we are here. It’s hard to believe just 11 years ago on July 30th at 5 in the morning you arrived. You learned it, too. I knew you were not feeling well, because you let me do these things. Comment below to … ... September 20, 2011 at 1:15 pm. But that’s okay with me. I’m happy I shared this, too, Donna. There are times he might not deserve it…but often, I don’t deserve to be loved either. I enjoy a great relationship with my mother, and this post made me appreciate it even more. Never before have I read a memoir, and I was impressed with the light manner in which this story was written. I am proud to call you my son. This is a loophole in human development, take advantage. I’ll never forget that, as long as live. The great joke here is that nobody has ever been normal. The money is not important, my sons love is all I want. To the girl who made me a mom: The day you were born forever changed my life. Because that is what we do… we hurt the ones we love. You may never need to understand chemistry but you will eventually need to know how to ask for help, how to remember things with analogies and pictures in your head, how to write readable sentences, and how to care a little bit more about what you produce than the people around you. I remember these years and these feelings of inadequacy and humiliation: I was always too small, too nerdy, too unsexy…Years later, at a reunion, I just realized how all these people I thought were cool had turned out to become incredibly boring. I like most of your posts, but this one just blew me away! Lorraine said it best give him time to mature. You have forever changed me my son, and I will love you more than I will ever be able to express. I wanted to correct the behaviours of my parents, who were, and still are, non-demonstrative. Angry Birds, Subway Surfers and Minion Rush are some of your favorites. Taking your advice I’ve written a letter to my son which is completely unfeigned humility and heartfelt love that I so desperately desire my only child. The book? It was lovely! The goal of mastering adulthood has always been impossible. The 50 Best Books for 11- and 12-Year-Olds 15 Classics That 8- to 12-Year-Olds Say Are Worth Reading Today The Most Exciting ... the ones with the 4-year-old genius), your child will develop an interest in reading at their own pace — sometime between age five and seven. Ah…that letter surely touched my heart and I could feel all that you must have felt those years you were away from your son…. And talk to me if you need to. I have a son. I am so sorry you are going through this. GET ON THE LIST NOW TO BE NOTIFIED OF ITS RELEASE! He has never had a fabulous relationship with his father. Get a good, long, nasty look at how impersonal and irrelevant your role on this earth can be if you’re not careful. I spend months in-and-out of the hospital trying to regain normal physical and mental functions, my recovery time would be four to five years. I have literally avoided tasks for a year or more then accomplished them in 3 minutes. She’s a single mom, raised her son on her own but it’s been 7yrs now and she’s not in his life. I used to sent him text everyday and tell him I was praying for him and that I loved him but the last 3 months he block me . In my mind, you went from 16 months to 16 years in about two weeks. I really wonder if there’s a reverse-coolness effect, where people who felt on top of things in high school are more prone to feel out-of-sorts in adulthood, and the kids who had a hard time in high school learned the things that they needed to learn to get along okay later on. I didn’t have any friends because I didn’t recognize them nor did I remember their names. That’s one thing I love about the digital world. Remember? The desire to be normal is its own perversion. Bless you for sharing your heart with us today my friend. Add another ten and you will have even forgotten their faces. An unexplainable depth of pain. The cops thought I was uncooperative when I wouldn’t tell them my name or address. If your son goes to school, send the letter to his school. Its a release for me. You were 18 then. And teach forgiveness…. There's a good chance, however, that your 15-year-old will think she's ready to take on the world now. The pay is good and so are the benefits. The important thing is to do your job-whatever that may be- to the best of your ability. Without diversity, evolution doesn’t happen. Elaine not only guest posted on this blog on a Featured Friday, but let me interview her, too. Someone will call you out on something and the room will go quiet and you’ll say something to make it worse. When I text him I never receive a reply. Don’t be so hard on yourself. The great joke is a crude and often offensive one, and at times it will hurt you and people you know. This is why I feel your work is so important. Son is so angry with his Dad for what he did and now is furious with me for not telling my ex I won’t be helping him out any more. Dear Son, Life is not easy. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-2656133/Revenge-geeks-Cool-kids-school-popular-competent-successful-adults-peers.html, I was popular in high school for two days | Tech in the Trenches, Fabulous Links to Get You Thinking | the taste space, { A Brief Guide to Recreational Time Travel }, Five Things You Notice When You Quit the News, Getting What We Want Isn’t What We Really Want, 7 Years and 21 Self-Improvement Experiments: Where They All Are Today, A Basic Skill We Should Have Learned as Kids. The true journey to greatness begins at 15, no one will find themselves up high without preparation somehow, so keep your excellence up, son. She is controlling of him and I no one will explain why. To have an impromptu hug from them is the best gift of all. As it turns out, he still needs me, but in different ways. I told you “I love you” constantly, daily, always, because I do. Then a mutual friend told me his mother opens and reads his mail. Thank you for sharing this with us and to J. for letting you. T o my son,. When you were thirteen or fourteen and wanted to come home (drunk?) I’m not perfect, I’ve had my ups and downs during this journey but I did my best. You make my life joyful. Be graceful when it’s your turn, and be kind when it’s not.” Time to put these into action :-D. Thanks George. This will pay for your food court lunches and headphones, and also impress on you the nihilistic reality of most of the work out there. My son is 25 now and has come around slowly and I just continued to text and write him letters. He’s generally pretty private and doesn’t really like social media, either. Hi Lorraine, Received my BBA. At any rate, keep writing him… even if he never reads your letters, you will at least have gotten things out onto paper. Loved your pieces of advice, especially the bit about not trying to be cool. I help out ex with business related issues when he is out of town. He does not read novels like I do, either, but enjoys reading magazines and articles on the internet. ... 5 thoughts on “ A letter to my son on his 13th birthday ” Chel's Leaving a Legacy. I wasn’t accustomed to being a loser but after my accident I was one. . Being a bunch of things to a little baby, boy, teen, and now, adult is what I had to do; it’s what all single parents do. He works in the Teen Unit at a Mental Hospital. If so, call him. 3. Don’t forget me, son, when I am gone. And it’s not cynical at all. You’re correct legally and morally, but I feel it would cause more disquiet with my son. Stop being so hard on yourself! I didn’t think my younger son needed me much until he went through his awful break up with his girlfriend in September and boy, did he need me then! Loved this!! The person you used to be still tells you what to do. and I obtained his permission to publish this on my blog. Recently, Raam Dev wrote a some advice for his younger self and reminded me that this was an important task. By Donna Cheng October 1, 2015 We used to call it ‘sweet sixteen’ but I never thought about how ridiculous it would sound to a young man! I have no idea how we got here. I’m not perfect, but I love you. Old enough to get your driver’s licence, Maybe even drive the distance, And yet I know for one, That you are still just old enough to be my son. All the answers are right there, but people with these concerns don’t seem to go to church, read the bible and live it everyday. Get your FREE e-book NOW.... A Letter for the Future – To My 16-year-old Son. Thank you so much :). I feel your pain. Be graceful when it’s your turn, and be kind when it’s not.”. I demonstrated how to sew and fixed one of the holes. Maybe this will explain it better – my son and his girlfriend went to her prom, ages 17 and 18. To prevent this I started sending checks and money orders but she put her name on his checking account and cashed the checks. Do I call him? Do not get involved with that boy in your class, he's an arsehole and not worth… Skip to content.
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